Finally In the most empathic way I asked myself the question What have I done to deserve a life with such continuing struggle? I believe that we are created to be relational to all things created by God. However, there is a need to be free from the external and internal influences clouding out true desires that drives us to become islands, we truly crave to be seen, known, understood and valued to have someone to kiss our faces, hold us close, makes us feel cared for and in a word “LOVED”.
Relationships are sacred because they provide life’s grandest opportunity. It is the only opportunity to create and produce the experience of your highest conceptualization of “Self.” Relationships fail when you see them as life’s grandest opportunity to create and produce the experience of your highest conceptualization of another…. No one can produce the real You but YOU!
Remember, Experience produces concept of self, conception produces creation, and creation produces experience. Life is an interesting exercise in defining what is “fun”.
I used this phrase because it made sense to me that Friends are like a Good Bra, one I wear bras and it is always good to wear a good supportive one at that, you don’t need everything hanging out for everyone to see…and it must be close to my heart, supportive, comfortable and lifts me up when everything is hanging low and most of all it makes me look better!
If you want to make the most of love,you need to do your homework… This week just look at one occasion in any relationship, whether it’s with your Spouse, a Colleague, a friend or family member, when you Notice yourself getting angry or feeling unliked, misunderstood, unwanted or judged…Shift your perception by focusing on these three steps
1. Focus on something positive outside of the situation in the environment.
2. Find one or two redeeming quality about that person or situation
3. Instead of assuming something is going to be negative, say to yourself, “i’m going to whatever I can in this situation to ensure a positive outcome.”
Most of All Make the Most of Life’s grandest opportunities…Rev.Sakinah O’Kane- Smith